Dealing with Triggering People

Dealing with Triggering People

People’s Thoughts:

„I still find it difficult to stay at peace when I am triggered by someone. The feeling of being hurt sets in faster than the rational mind, which tells you: You can stay in peace… (…) … The only thing that helps is practice.“

People who trigger us remain in our lives as long as there is something for us to learn from them. When someone triggers and hurts us, there is often a message behind it. It is about standing up for ourselves, setting boundaries, and not letting others throw us off balance. In the end, it is not the words or actions of others that hurt us – but our own reaction to them. The more we strengthen our self-worth independently of external influences, the less power triggers have over us. If we see them as an opportunity for self-reflection, they can become valuable guides.

Personal Experience

All my life, I have been triggered – and just as much, I have triggered others. I still do, but now with full awareness. Triggers are valuable because they show us the lessons that life presents to us over and over again. It was a long process before I realized that triggers are not just challenges but also an opportunity to become more connected with myself. They helped me understand that I no longer have to say yes to everything and that I don’t have to waste my energy on just anyone and anything.

Approach

Triggers are a gift because they give you the chance to consciously perceive yourself. They show you what is going on inside you and why this specific situation is a lesson for you. As long as triggers appear in your life, there are unconscious issues that have not yet been resolved. You attract people who trigger you because your energy vibrates at a frequency that brings them into your life.

Perhaps take a moment to reflect on what certain statements trigger in you – and what lesson is still waiting to be completed so that you can fully come into your own power.

Take a moment to think about these questions:

• What inner issues are still unresolved?
• Why do certain statements trigger a reaction in me, and what does that say about myself?
• How can I take the next step to consciously use triggers for my growth?
• What can I do to see triggers as valuable signals from life?

Read the following blog posts:

• Healing through triggering
• Why do I project my issues onto others?
• How do I stay with myself?
• The search for ourselves