Energy robbers

Thoughts from within:

Today, I consciously agreed to meet someone. But deep down, I didn’t feel like going. Now I’m back home and feel completely drained. Why is that? You said in your video: „It’s up to us.“ „We don’t have to waste our energy on people who aren’t open to us.“ But this colleague was open and kind to me. And still… you say we sense when it’s time to leave a place. That’s exactly how it felt for me. So is it about me? Or is that person simply not right for me? Do I need to find a compromise here?

At the heart of it all, it’s important to recognize one simple truth: you always have a choice. A choice about where you are, what you do, and who you surround yourself with. It’s your decision – moment by moment – how you live your life. Your body has a deep intelligence. It not only senses what’s going on within you – it also begins to clearly perceive the energies of others… and what they’re unconsciously seeking.

That inner urge to escape is not weakness. It’s a deeply intuitive, physical response. Your body knows when a situation is nourishing – and when it’s not. And when you override that signal, situations that once felt neutral or even pleasant can start to drain you. The choice to stay or go lies with you. But in truth, once a situation no longer triggers your own inner patterns, you’ll start sensing something else: that it’s not your own feelings that wear you down – but the emotional weight of others, if you remain too long in their field.

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A personal perspective

Encounters with people can feel expansive, energizing, or exhausting. I enjoy being there for others – I truly do. But I also feel exactly when it’s time to step back. It’s a subtle awareness in my body. A knowing: do I have space for this right now? Or is it time to be with myself?

Often, it’s the hidden need for love in others that stirs up this strong inner discomfort. Because we sense they are seeking something in us that they can only truly find in themselves. Even when people seem gentle, warm, and caring – even when they lean in and seem genuinely open – they can still feel toxic to our system. Why? Because they unconsciously reach for energy that is not theirs to take.

This is neither good nor bad. It’s not about blame or fault. They’re simply on their own journey of healing – searching for love – and for now, they’re trying to find it through others. We can turn towards them with presence, yes. But at some point, our body will gently remind us: it’s time to return to ourselves. And perhaps, this is exactly where our own healing begins.

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Approach

It is entirely up to you how much time and energy you give to others. Even if they seem loving, empathetic, or humble, they may still drain your energy. That’s because of their unconscious longing for love – for something they believe they lack within themselves. Your decision to step away from such a situation doesn’t necessarily come from unresolved issues within you. It may simply be your body’s way of warning you – a signal to protect yourself from someone’s unconscious, energy-consuming behavior.

If you truly want to be there for them, then do so. But also choose when it’s time to leave. Give them the energy you’re willing to give – and then walk away to preserve your own balance. This is how you stand by yourself. You remain compassionate, but you don’t sacrifice yourself. You stay in alignment.

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Take these reflective questions with you:

Why do I keep attracting people into my life who don’t do me any good – even though my body is quietly pulling away?
What role does my self-worth play in this – and what still wants to be healed?
How much of my precious energy am I willing to give without losing my own center?
Am I allowed to consciously choose where my time and presence flow – without feeling guilty?
What part of me believes I’m hurting others when I walk my own path?
How can I end a connection mindfully, without bending myself or pushing others away?

Energy robbers