How to make parents happy again?
How to make parents happy again?
How to Make Parents Happy Again?
People’s Thoughts:
„Why was it so important for me to always see my parents happy?“
By nature, humans are social beings. From childhood, the love and care of our parents allow us to develop deep bonds with the people around us. Society shapes us with the idea of monogamous relationships and an idealized family image based on the unity of mother, father, and children. We strive for this ideal, and it hurts us when it breaks apart or takes on different forms. A divorce can shake this bond and is often experienced as an emotional loss. Our worldview, shaped over many years, begins to waver because it no longer aligns with societal norms.
But what exactly is „normal“? Why is it so hard for us to accept the end of relationships? Why do we tend to project our own feelings and expectations onto our parents? As children, we instinctively sense when something is wrong with our parents. But why is it so important to us to see them happy? And how is this connected to ourselves?
Personal Experience
I can clearly sense when my parents, my family, or other people around me are not doing well. Our subtle antennas enable us to pick up on the moods and needs of others. But it is not my responsibility to make other people happy. Instead, I can support and stand by them—especially when they are willing to be honest with themselves and actively pursue their own happiness.
However, if I try to change people who are not open to it, it only leads to an unnecessary drain on my energy—because they block themselves internally. That’s why I give only as much as my inner sense allows and set healthy boundaries. I know that everyone is ultimately responsible for their own happiness.
Approach
The only person you are truly responsible for—apart from children you care for temporarily—is yourself. Everyone bears responsibility for their own life, mindset, and personal happiness. You can support others, but it should not be your task to „save“ them. Self-sacrifice, often done unconsciously, primarily harms you. Perhaps you judge your parents because you believe they made many mistakes. Such thoughts can impact your own happiness. Could it be that you are conforming to the expectations of others? Or are you perhaps trying to be seen and feel that you are enough?
You can learn to set healthy boundaries and recognize when you are overextending yourself for others. If you enjoy giving and it brings you joy, then do it—but ensure that it feels right for you and doesn’t lead to burnout or exhaustion.
Take a moment to reflect on these questions:
- Why is it important to me to see my parents happy?
- Do I consciously and healthily give my energy to them?
- How much energy do I give to others—and how much to myself?
- What expectations did my parents perhaps place on me early on?
- Who ultimately bears responsibility for inner peace, especially in relation to my parents?
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