Why do I feel uncomfortable around people?

26. Mai 2025

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Relationship and Love

Why do I feel uncomfortable around people?

People’s thoughts:

„I am the most myself when I’m alone. Then I simply am. But why doesn’t this work when I’m around people, in everyday life? I don’t feel whole there, I end up playing a role – like the employee, the colleague, the partner, the friend, the customer, etc. And I constantly long to finally be myself again – at home, alone, or out in nature. I love people, I love my family, but I don’t feel present with them. It feels more like something I have to do, to be there. It’s hard to explain.“

We are capable of perceiving everything around us. Often, the feelings of others and the energies of the places we’re in blend with our own. In such cases, it becomes hard to distinguish what truly belongs to us and what belongs to others or to the environment. We are, in essence, connected to everything and everyone – but when we let everything from the outside affect us, we quickly feel drained, tired, and disconnected from ourselves. And yet, we are also capable of sensing this, balancing it out, and counteracting it.

It takes some practice and sensitivity, but it is possible. Yes, it can be a challenge to stay present in everyday life – but this too is doable. It may not always work, since our mind is part of us, and every thought separates us from the now. But like with everything, it’s about balance. We are human. We have responsibilities, jobs, and move through different places every day. Still, the state we feel when we are alone can be brought into our everyday situations. That’s when we begin to realize what is truly affecting us.

Why do I feel uncomfortable around people?

Personal experience

For a long time, I was strongly influenced by the energy of others – or rather, I allowed myself to be influenced by places or situations that didn’t feel right. I often unconsciously tried to balance the energy in a room. But at some point, I realized: it’s not my job to take responsibility for others. What I can do is share my perspective with them and, through my presence, mirror and amplify their feelings – reflect them back. The realization that I can stay aware of myself while perceiving the feelings of others is the greatest gift.

Because only then do I know what’s good for me and when it’s time to step back. I also love being alone and having my own space. Nature is the best helper. But I also enjoy meeting people, listening to them, and sensing their relief when they feel truly heard. However, it’s entirely up to me how long I stay in their energy field. A big city, for example, creates more strain due to the crowds, buildings, electromagnetic pollution, etc., than nature, where purity and peace already prevail. And yes, we are allowed to consciously choose where we spend our time and with whom we surround ourselves.

Why do I feel uncomfortable around people?

Approach

Once you become aware of how you feel when you’re alone, you can transfer that feeling into your daily life. Remember how it feels in that state, then hold your energy. It takes a bit of practice and repeatedly returning to your state of solitude, but you are absolutely able to maintain that inner stance even in daily situations. Maybe not constantly, since you also need time to retreat – again, it’s about balance.

For practice, you could imagine an invisible bubble around you. You are present for others – not completely closed off – but simply existing without letting the emotions or energy of the outside world affect or overwhelm you, or judging them. Be aware that even in this case, balance can be maintained. Only you know best when it’s time to retreat again – to step out of the everyday and back into yourself.

Why do I feel uncomfortable around people?

Take these questions with you to stay connected in everyday life:

How do I feel when I’m alone?
What can I do to bring this feeling into everyday life – without losing myself?
How long can I stay around people before I lose my sense of self?
How can I maintain balance?
When do I need to be alone again?
Is there a place at my workplace where I can withdraw – to reconnect with myself if I’ve temporarily lost it?

Why do I feel uncomfortable around people?

Why do I feel uncomfortable around people?