Why do I project my issues onto others?
Why do I project my issues onto others?
Why do I project my issues onto others?
Underlying thoughts of people:
“I’m trying to create structure. My roommate is the opposite. I have certain expectations of her that are probably excessive. I project my own issues onto her. I don’t know what to do with my anger or how to deal with it. Can I talk to her about it or what do I tell her?”
As soon as we have expectations of other people, are angry about their behavior or their disorder, we project our issues onto them. Feelings that reflect our inner issues are triggered in us by other people. These issues take place within ourselves and are only triggered by others. Our life and the people who surround us are a reflection of ourselves.
My experience
Every person that I meet or was part of my life represents a trigger for me. I can constantly find myself in other people or situations. Because what is triggered in me: feelings of anger, shame, boredom, insecurity… are my feelings. Today I realize that. But a while ago, I couldn’t deal with these feelings either and blamed those around me for my feelings.
Do the following
Realize that your feeling and every thought about your outside world or your fellow human beings is an evaluation of yourself. You don’t let things go, but rather inner themes are activated within you. Use communication, dare to talk openly about your issues with those around you and express how you feel. Simply be aware of your thoughts and feelings. Allow them to happen by living through them. This is the only way to face your inner issues. Because every mirror of your outside world that doesn’t let you be peaceful shows you your issues. Use your life and your environment to continually recognize yourself. Disengage to acknowledge peace within yourself.
Go within yourself and ask yourself the following questions:
- What thoughts and feelings do other people trigger in me?
- What feelings are taking place within me:
- Compulsive control
- Fury?
- Shame?
- Expectations of others?
- Uncertainty?
- Why don’t I consciously experience thoughts and feelings?
- What prevents me from talking to other people and sharing my thoughts and feelings with them?
- Am I aware that other people trigger these feelings in me and are therefore a mirror for me?
Read the following blog posts:
- Why do I keep thinking about the past?
- The search for ourselves
- Get rid of pressure
- Overcome fear
- How do I find inner peace?
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