Setting conscious boundaries
Setting Conscious Boundaries
Setting conscious boundaries
Thoughts of people:
„How to set boundaries? Inner peace comes from present-moment awareness… but it’s not that easy.“
Inner peace arises in the now – it is always present, in the moment we are fully aware. But sometimes it is hard for us to energetically detach from other people or situations. When we start to think about how this should be done, we shift our energy into the mind. Instead of being in feeling and action, we get lost in evaluations and thoughts. But we could start right now – not perfectly, but honestly – practicing staying with ourselves. Because in every moment lies the opportunity to return to peace, to create space for others.
However, we can choose this space. We can consciously decide with whom we associate and in which space we want to be. But once we block – once we want to protect ourselves internally – we are no longer present; instead, we isolate ourselves.
Setting conscious boundaries
Personal Experience
For a long time, I wanted to please others, gave too much of my energy outward, and overlooked myself in the process. I didn’t listen to my body; instead, I let my mind lead, being there for everyone else – but not for myself. I lost myself in the energy of others, and this imbalance led to inner suffering. And people feel that. They sense when we are withdrawing instead of creating space.
Today, I am consciously managing my energy. I stay with myself and give only as much outward as I truly want – as much as feels physically right. I am here for others, yes – but first and foremost, I am here for myself. Because I have realized: When I feel good, everyone around me benefits.
I feel my boundaries clearer than ever. I recognize them exactly in the moments when my mind becomes still, and I connect fully with myself. Today, I know that I can choose my space. I can consciously choose where I want to be and with whom. I don’t have to stay if I don’t want to. But I also don’t have to completely detach – draw boundaries – if I can create a space full of light.
Setting conscious boundaries
Approach
Listen to yourself. Trust that quiet, subtle voice inside you – it will show you when it’s time to leave the space. When people are not open to your light, or when you consciously decide against the situation. Practice this in your daily life, especially when interacting with others. You don’t have to raise your voice, explain yourself, or justify anything. Often, it’s enough to turn inward, briefly block out the outside world, and stop giving it any more energy. Let your thoughts quiet down – and you will feel what changes just by doing that.
You may want to act out of guilt. You might believe that you have to be there for others. But you end up sacrificing yourself and forgetting yourself in such a situation. Light is stable, strong within itself. We can be present. Present without having to do anything – without having to set boundaries.
Setting conscious boundaries
Ask yourself the following questions to assess yourself better:
- What can I do to truly strengthen my presence?
- Do I even have to do anything to be fully present – or can I simply be?
- Why do I often feel hurt in the presence of others?
- From which emotions am I acting – maybe out of guilt, fear, or the desire to please?
- Am I allowed to leave a space and consciously choose which spaces I really want to be in?
Setting conscious boundaries
Also, read the following blog posts:
- Staying in my energy
- Take personal responsibility
- Learn to say no
- Letting go of guilt
- Self-healing – Can I heal myself?
